Energy & Frequency: The Hidden Architecture of Your Well-Being
- Jay Glaspy
- Dec 7, 2025
- 4 min read
Most high achievers talk about stress, burnout, or exhaustion, but few ever pause long enough to ask the deeper question beneath all of it:
What energy are you operating from? Answers to energy, frequency, and well-being.
Not in a mystical sense—but in the grounded, measurable way your nervous system communicates, responds, and organizes your inner world. Your emotional state, cognitive patterns, and physiological signals create a kind of “internal frequency,” shaping how you show up, how you lead, and how you experience life.
You can be successful and still operate from an anxious frequency. You can be productive and still radiate overwhelm. You can appear strong while your internal system is quietly fraying.
When you understand the relationship between energy, frequency, and well-being, you begin to see that transformation isn’t just about doing more or trying harder—it’s about changing the internal state from which you live.
Energy: The State of Your Internal System
In behavioral science, “energy” is closely tied to physiological activation—your autonomic nervous system’s balance between stress and restoration.
Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory (2011) highlights how your nervous system constantly scans for danger or safety, shifting you into states of mobilization, collapse, or grounded presence.
Your energy level is not random. It is:
The tone of your breath
The tension in your muscles
The speed of your thoughts
The coherence of your emotional state
When people say “I’m drained,” they’re describing a real biological condition of chronic sympathetic activation—too much output, not enough recovery.
When they say “I feel centered,” they’re describing parasympathetic regulation—rest, connection, clarity.
Your energy is your internal operating system.
Frequency: The Patterns You Emit and Absorb
“Frequency” often gets misused in wellness circles, but there is a grounded way to understand it.
In psychology and neuroscience, frequency refers to:
Attention patterns
Emotional resonance
Heart-rate variability rhythms
Brainwave states
Coherence between breath, heart, and cognition
Heart-brain coherence research (McCraty & Childre, 2010) shows that calm, intentional breathing creates measurable physiological harmony—what some simply call “good energy.”
Mindfulness research (Kabat-Zinn, 2005) demonstrates that present-moment attention shifts mental frequency from rumination to awareness.
Your frequency is the “signal” you bring into relationships, leadership, and daily life.
Your clients, your spouse, your children—they feel it.Long before they hear your words.
Why This Matters for High Achievers and Well-Being
Executives, veterans, athletes, and first responders often live in states of perpetual activation. They’re trained to push through discomfort, override internal signals, and perform under pressure.
But there’s a cost.
When your energy is depleted and your frequency is reactive, life becomes a series of fires to put out. You interpret everything as threat, urgency, or offense. You stop responding—and start reacting.
This is why “fixing” your schedule, career, or routines only helps temporarily.
If the internal frequency remains unchanged, the external world continues to feel heavy.
Transformation begins when the nervous system shifts from survival to presence.
How We Work With Energy & Frequency in Coaching
In coaching (not therapy), we focus on:
1. Breathwork for Regulation
Slow, intentional breathing increases vagal tone and restores physiological coherence.
2. Mindfulness & Presence Training
Noticing without judgment interrupts old mental patterns and increases clarity.
3. Identity & Narrative Awareness
Your internal story creates the emotional frequency you lead from.
4. Nervous System Informed Coaching
Recognizing signs of dysregulation and learning to steer back to grounded awareness.
5. Lifestyle Design
Sleep, movement, nutrition, and boundaries strengthen your energetic baseline.
The goal isn’t to “raise your vibration” as a slogan. It’s to help you cultivate an inner state that makes your outer world feel more manageable, meaningful, and aligned.
You don’t change your life by force. You change your state, and your life follows.
If You Want to Feel More Grounded, Present, and Aligned
This is what I help clients with—executives, veterans, and high performers who appear strong on the outside but feel overwhelmed internally.
If you’re ready to shift not just your habits, but the internal operating system guiding your life, I support clients in Northern Virginia and nationwide through private 1:1 coaching.
About Jay
I’m Jay Glaspy, a transformational life and leadership coach based in the Haymarket–Gainesville area and serving clients nationwide. As a U.S. Army Special Forces veteran, I bring a grounded, experience-driven approach to helping high performers realign their lives from the inside out. I coach executives, veterans, athletes, and driven professionals in embodied leadership, lifestyle design, and identity alignment so they can build a life they don’t need to escape from. My work blends practical systems with mindful, presence-based leadership. After navigating my own seasons of challenge, recovery, and reinvention, I now help others create clarity, stability, and a way of living that feels honest and sustainable.
Let's connect: jay@commandperformancecoaching.com
APA References
Kabat-Zinn, J. (2005). Coming to our senses: Healing ourselves and the world through mindfulness. Hyperion.
McCraty, R., & Childre, D. (2010). Coherence: Bridging personal, social, and global health. Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine, 16(4), 10–24.
Porges, S. W. (2011). The polyvagal theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W.W. Norton & Company
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